Make darned sure your connections are impeccable. That alone could cause your symptoms, especially if, as you say, "...at highway speed and gave it gas the gauge would shoot all over the place from 20 to 40 psi and then when I really put the pedal down it would shoot anywhere from 0 to 40 the gauge was almost a blur because of how fast it was changing pressure"
That almost cries out voltage drops.
On your pump choices...
Bosch is excellent for frame-mount pump. They are the OE manufacturer.
I've had issues with Delphi units, but typically entire replacement modules with sender and carrier. You might be better off--and LOTS cheaper too--if you install an in-tank pump motor only into your existing pump carrier assembly.
This is a Bosch unit in-tank pump motor kit. It's a direct fit, part no 69115, but might be tough to find.
Note it includes the pump strainer that most others do not.
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My second choice for in-tank pump motor would be Denso, but I can't find one from my normal sources.
Here is a Delphi unit, which should perform OK. Being my third choice though, I'd look harder for that Bosch unit up there.
Note it does not include the strainer. See below.
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This is the Delphi strainer unit, part no FS0120
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And do your Fuel Pump Relay too. OE is no longer available, but this Standard brand no RY70 will work well.
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And lastly, replace your filter too. I'd go with Motorcraft FG1060 as they are factory replacements, and much less costly than Wix, for example.
And though not shown, it will come with line clips.
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Happy tracing!